Ugh, being a girl in high school can be such a struggle! Especially when you are a freshman and know nothing about it (glad I’m not in that position anymore).
I have gathered my top 10 tips every high school girl (that means you) should know.
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As a rising junior in high school, I have had a lot of experience. So, here are my 10 tips you need to know to make your high school experience easier and more enjoyable.
Ok, roll the tapes. The show is about to begin.
Let’s get into it.
1. You don’t need a boyfriend or girlfriend
I 100% wish I knew this during my freshman year. For some reason, I had this idea in my head that everyone in high school was dating someone else (anyone else? No, just me? Excellent.). That meant that I should be too.
Um, I was sooo wrong. That wasn’t even close to reality.
Freshman year I had two boyfriends, yes two (it was a weird time) and it didn’t improve my life, at all.
If anything, it just made my freshman year more stressful and made me more reliant on someone else to help get by. I felt like I couldn’t do things independently or by myself (if you are in this boat, then DO NOT get a boyfriend or girlfriend).
If you are a freshman in high school, it is so important not to date someone. If you do then you won’t be able to fully adapt to your new surroundings on your own. Then, when sophomore year comes speeding ahead after y’all break up, you won’t know how to be alone or “do” highschool by yourself.
Also, you don’t want dating someone to become your whole personality trait. Do you want to be known as his/her girlfriend?
You want to have your own identity, a purpose, whatever. You need to become your person before you can dedicate yourself to someone else. If you would like to read more content about dating or relationships then just comment below.
2. Your friend group will change
Don’t set yourself up for disappointment.
It is important to remember that we are in high school right now and the friends we have most likely won’t be the ones we have forever. Friendships will come and go.
But that doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try to make friends. By all means, become friends with as many people as you want.
Just remember that your friend group freshman year won’t be the one you have senior year and if it is, congrats because you’re a rarity!
Also, when you feel your group falling apart, you can try to save it. But most likely it’ll just be best to let the cards fall in place.
My final tidbit of information for this tip is that when thinking of friends you should think more about quality than quantity. It doesn’t matter if you have 100 friends but they all suck. Wouldn’t you rather have 3 good friends who you love being around?
3. Breakups aren’t just with boyfriends or girlfriends
I feel like there’s a huge misconception about breakups. When you hear the word what do you think of? A boyfriend? A girlfriend?
But what about a friend?
Most people don’t think about this one. A friend breakup can be just as hard if not harder than a normal breakup. If you are in a toxic friendship and want to get out of it, then read this post from Meghan’s Teen Life.
It can be confusing when to know it’s time to leave a friend, so make sure to check out Meghan’s post for more info!
4. What you wear doesn’t matter
As high school girls, it is easy to get caught up in what to wear.
It can like the end of the world if your favorite pair of pants is dirty or if you’ve already worn your pink shirt this week so now you can’t wear until the next (even though it would look so adorable with that leopard print skirt that you were wanting to wear tomorrow).
All of this.
It doesn’t matter. Okay, let me just say that again for the people in the back. WHAT YOU WEAR DOES NOT MATTER.
Let’s be honest. No one cares about what you wear and if they did that would be weird (mind your own business please and thank you).
If you’re thinking, Carmen, that can’t be true, of course, someone cares that I have worn the same thing 2x in a week…
Well, you’d be wrong. Let’s experiment. Think back to being in school. Do you remember what anyone has worn in the past week? What about if they’ve worn the same garment? No? What’s that? Oh, you don’t care?
Exactly. You just proved my point.
There’s no need to create extra anxiety over aspects of your life that no one notices. It is a waste of energy that should be put to good use.
5. Not everyone is going to like you
This one has never been hard for me to understand. Since I’m an introvert, I’m fine with being by myself, so if someone doesn’t like me then that’s okay.
I’m including this tip because I know many other high school girls who struggle with this. That being the idea that everyone needs to like them or else they aren’t good enough. But girl, that is so far from the truth.
You don’t need external validation to be good enough. You can just be.
This is easier said than done and I understand that but think back to the tip above. Remember what I said? Let me remind you.
Most times, you are going to be the only person who notices something weird or strange that you are doing, so there is no need to create extra anxiety, especially when you can’t control the situation.
You could try to get everyone to like you, and you might succeed. But you wouldn’t have any close friends and would always try to please everyone.
By attempting to please everyone, you are appealing to no one.
Just be yourself. The right people will find you when you are being your genuine self and they will be better friends because of it.
6. Don’t be embarrassed, just do it
As high school girls, we waste so much time worrying about embarrassing ourselves, (myself included) that we don’t do activities that we are wanting to do.
Fear is the culprit for many failed attempts of my trying in sports, participating in group activities, public speaking, and reaching out to someone.
The thing is, that by giving attention to this fear you have, you are just feeding it and allowing it to take over.
If you want to do something then do it. Don’t stress about what will happen if something goes wrong, instead think of all that could go right. This mindset shift will help change your whole perspective.
7. Talk to upperclassmen
Being a freshman is scary. Especially when you see 6ft juniors and seniors towering over you.
During my freshman year, I avoided all contact with upperclassmen. I didn’t even want to talk to the ones of my volleyball team because I was worried they wouldn’t like me or would think I was annoying.
This was so not true!
You need to remember that upperclassmen are just like you, just a little bit older. They can be treated like normal people (because they are).
Not talking to them is just an irrational fear that many high school freshmen have. This fear can prevent you from creating new friends or learning more about your school and community.
8. Be kind to freshman + sophomores
If you are an upperclassman, then this is just the opposite of the tip above.
The freshmen might be new and a little bit younger, but they need someone to act as a leader and show them the ropes.
It is important for you to help them along, especially in the first few months of school, if you see them struggling.
Who knows, one of your best friends might end up being a freshman or sophomore!
9. When there’s a new kid in your grade, they probably won’t be cute (so don’t get your hopes up)
Now this tip.
This tip is so relatable.
I don’t know about you, but whenever I hear that there will be a new kid in my grade, I immediately picture them. In my mind, they are hot, funny, and smart (pretty much the perfect guy).
Don’t do this.
Let me save you from this disappointment. This is one of those situations where it’s better to be on the more pessimistic side than optimistic.
Also, even if you already have an established friend group, you should still get to know the new kid because you don’t know how they might be feeling.
10. Listen to your mom, she’s usually right
Your mom is wise and she’s always right.
Not once has my mom been wrong about anything. About friends, boyfriends, or general situations and conflicts.
You should always listen to her and get her opinion on situations. She can give you valuable advice and insight that you might not have thought of before.
Even if you think she’s wrong and doesn’t know what’s happening in your life, you should still listen.
I know that everyone has busy lives, so if you wanted to skim, here’s a list of my top 10 tips. Don’t forget to pin this post on Pinterest if you found it helpful or want to come back to it later. Also, follow me on Pinterest to stay updated on my posts!
10 Tips Every High School Girl Needs to Know:
- You don’t need a boyfriend or girlfriend
- Your friend group will change
- Breakups aren’t just with boyfriends or girlfriends
- What you wear doesn’t matter
- Not everyone is going to like you
- Don’t be embarrassed, just do it
- Talk to upperclassmen
- Be kind to freshman + sophomores
- When there’s a new kid in your grade, they probably won’t be cute (so don’t get your hopes up)
- Listen to your mom, she’s usually right
Pheww! That was a lot of tips! Let me know if you have any high school tips or which one you are going to try and implement! I hope that this post helps you out! What would you like to see more of? If you are new to this blog and have any questions make sure to learn more about me and contact me! Chat soon!